First Steps to a Great Life

Posted on: May 17, 2012 by: Deshvidesh

The Parent’s Guide to Orienting Their Child on Marriage

When there are little children in the house, parents are extremely anxious about how they will grow to be. This is why most are very cautious about the values and traditions that are passed on to their children. For many Indians living in America, staying connected to Indian roots is extremely important, since this plays a huge role in forming identity.

When children attain marriageable age, parents often worry about how they will broach the topic of love and marriage, one that is delicate and not always received very warmly. For one, this may not be a time when children are looking to be distracted with marriage. They may either decide to focus on their education and career at this point, or even just enjoy being with friends and living youth to the fullest. A parent’s greatest fear, though they may be hesitant to admit it, is that their child may have already found a partner, specifically one that is not Indian.

It is certain that marrying an Indian can make the road ahead into the future easier for most individuals. If this is important to you, communicating your wishes to your child is of utmost importance. Being able to convince and influence your child to marry an Indian is not just a single objective, but an ongoing endeavor.

Begin by teaching your child about all things Indian early on during their childhood. This includes customs, beliefs, language and food. Ensure all religious observances are practiced by the family together. This will give the child a strong identity and sense of belonging, which is sure to stay with him for a lifetime. Do not confine yourself merely to practicing these, but also to explaining the significance and inherent benefits. Providing this background will help children understand their culture and help them adhere to the norms better.

Participate in as many community events as possible. This will give you a chance to allow the children to bond with others of the same background, and also form their own individuality based on your background.

It is most important that you bring your child back to India regularly and have him/her meet as many of his family members as possible. Attending a wedding in India is certainly appealing as well. The glamour and magic of the Indian wedding with an Indian bride is difficult to miss, and the experience It is certain that marrying an Indian can make the road ahead into the future easier for most individuals. If this is important to you, communicating your wishes to your child is of utmost importance. Being able to convince and influence your child to marry an Indian is not just a single objective, but an ongoing endeavor.

When your child reaches maturity, when you are able to appeal to their sensibilities, ensure that you have an open conversation with them about the merits of marrying an Indian. While there may be many cases that are met with indifference, or even rebellion, there are always going to be points that are driven home.Without being overbearing, try and assert the importance of family ties, and how it is two families which are, in fact, coming together, and not just husband and wife.

Give your child some flexibility. Start early, and allow your child the freedom to register themselves on a matrimonial siteor even seek out their own alliances. This will not just spark an interest in them, but also enable them to understand the different possibilities available to them. Allow them to interact with those they may find interesting.

Always respect your child’s sentiments. If they, for any reason, are not interested in pursuing a certain proposal, do not push or force it, regardless of just how much you may like it. If you can give your child the freedom to say yes or no, they will reciprocate with as much enthusiasm and commitment. Let your child take it as slow as they want to, and do not, at any point make them feel like you are rushing them.

Marriage is an important step, and a one of life’s biggest decisions. While there is nothing better than the prospect of finding your child an Indian spouse, ensure that everyone enjoys the process. Do not leave any room for being disheartened or dejected. Allow an open environment for your child so that they may see the goodness for themselves. Although it is most normal for children to be swayed by what is around them and be tempted to try things in youth, they are sure to see where their best interest lies. Be persistent and patient. Your efforts are bound to bear fruit. It is all a question of when and how. After all, destiny has everything planned beautifully for everyone. If you have sown your seeds and watered well, you can enjoy the fruit with greater fondness.

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